دوستی با بعضی آدم ها

دوستی با بعضی آدم ها مثل نوشيدن چای کيسه‌ايست. هول هولکی و دم دستی. اين دوستی‌ها برای رفع تکليف خوبند. اما خستگی‌ات را رفع نمی‌کنند. اين چای خوردن‌ها دل آدم را باز نمی‌کند. خاطره نمی‌شود. فقط از سر اجبار می‌خوريشان که چای خورده باشی به بعدش هم فکر نمی‌کنی.

دوستی با بعضی آدمها مثل خوردن چای خارجی است. پر از رنگ و بو. اين دوستی‌ها جان می‌دهد برای مهمان‌بازی برای تعريف کردن لطيفه‌های خنده‌دار. برای فرستادن اس ام اس‌های صد تا يک غاز. برای خاطره‌های دمِ دستی. اولش هم حس خوبی به تو می‌دهند. اين چای زود دم خارجی را می‌ريزی در فنجان بزرگ. می‌نشينی با شکلات فندقی می‌خوری و فکر می‌کنی خوشحال‌ترين آدم روی زمينی. فقط نمی‌دانی چرا باقی چای که مانده در فنجان بعد از يکی دو ساعت می‌شود رنگ قير. يک مايع سياه و بد بو که چنان به ديواره فنجان رنگ می‌دهد که انگار در آن مرکب چين ريخته بودی نه چای.

 

دوستی با بعضی آدم‌ها مثل نوشيدن چای سرگل لاهيجان است. بايد نرم دم بکشد. بايد انتظارش را بکشی. بايد برای عطر و رنگش منتظر بمانی. بايد صبر کنی. آرام باشی و مقدماتش را فراهم کنی. بايد آن را بريزی در يک استکان کوچک کمر باريک. خوب نگاهش کنی. عطر ملايمش را احساس کنی و آهسته، جرعه جرعه بنوشی‌اش و زندگی کنی........

زیباترین قسم

نه تو می مانی و نه اندوه

و نه هیچیک از مردم این آبادی...

به حباب نگران لب یک رود قسم،

و به کوتاهی آن لحظه شادی که گذشت،

غصه هم می گذرد،

آنچنانی که فقط خاطره ای خواهد ماند...

 لحظه ها عریانند.

به تن لحظه خود، جامه اندوه مپوشان 

 هرگز.

 سهراب

Be my everyting

Dear God,

Tomorrow is thanksgiving. As I sit here and reflect back, I lose count of the things you have blessed me with. And I just want you to know that I am so thankful.
It wasn't all fun you know... There were some bumpy roads.  A lot of them at times. There were times were I lost track. I lost track of everything. I didnt know where to turn, and you where nowhere to be found. Didn't really know which direction I'm going anymore. But you carried me home, as you always do.

God, Thank you for bringing Baubak to my life who I love so dearly. Thank you for my family who are truly one of a kind. Thank you for every single one of my friends who have been there for me through thick and thin, and I really don't know what I would have done without them. and ofcourse thank you for Chester who is truly the joy of my life :)

I pray that you never allow us to take your blessings for granted. I pray that you make us believe in your power, that at the end of the day, everything is going to be ok! and I pray that you never let us lose our bond with you, and never feel disconnected. God, I ask you to be my everything. to be my hope, be my strengths, be my voice when I cant talk and my feet when I cant walk. Jesus, be my everything...Happy thanksgiving!

He is jelous for me

According to God, we are here to love. Nothing much really matters. So, God asses our lives based on how we love. But the word love, is so overrated and worn out. what does God mean by love?

well, he tells us.


" Love is Patient and kind; Love does not envy or boast; It is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; It is not irritable or resentful; It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believe all things, hope all things, endures all things. Love never ends....
faith, hope, and love abides, these three; but the greatest of these is love"  (1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13)  

Crazy love by Francis Chan







This is the true meaning of what love suppose to be; How pure and transparent! This is how he loves us, believe it or not (which is so hard to believe most of the time). But the question is, can we love him back the same way? Or can we love one another the way he loves us. After all, we are all born with it. we are all capable of doing so. It is in us, or he would have never expected it from us. I Wonder.


God is love, keep him close!

من دلم مي‌خواهد

خانه‌اي داشته باشم پر دوست

کنج هر ديوارش

دوست‌هايم بنشينند آرام

گل بگو گل بشنو...؛

 

هر کسي مي‌خواهد

وارد خانه پر عشق و صفايم گردد

يک سبد بوي گل سرخ

به من هديه کند

 

شرط وارد گشتن

شست و شوي دل‌هاست

شرط آن داشتن

   يک دل بي رنگ و رياست...

 

بر درش برگ گلي مي‌کوبم

روي آن با قلم سبز بهار

مي‌نويسم  اي يار

خانه‌ي ما اينجاست

 

تا که سهراب نپرسد ديگر

" خانه دوست کجاست ؟ "

 

Broken Hallelujah

bunch of drivers in this world..
 with a big GPS looking over us operated from upstairs...
 I cant imagine how frustrating it might be to try to show the right way. but he never says anything. never complains. He is patient. but we choose to twist. We choose to turn. I don't want to be a cold...broken...hallelujah

So help me God.

happiest moment of life

..."in fact, no one recognizes the happiest moment in their lives as they are living it. It may well be that, in a moment of joy, one might sincerely believe that they are living that golden instant "now", even having lived such a moment before, but whatever they say, in one part of their hearts, they still believe in the certainty of a happier moment to come." (The museum of innocent, Orhan Pamuk)

As I am sitting here, reading page by page,I understand how true this can be. We all wait for that "special" moment, "special" person, "special" place...yet,I've always asked myself; Is this a certain feeling that has been engraved in our hearts and brains, that when we feel it, we know it is the one.. this is the moment.
As we sit, and wait for it, hours and days, passes before our eyes.

...or could it simply be like this?

December 2010, free of work, enjoying a cup of tea at home. it was cold as it could be. I was deep in thoughts, as I always am, when a knock on the door, broke it apart. and there he was standing at the door, with a big smile.
"come, come, come in...is it raining outside? you are all wet."
"oh its snowing, and freezing, look out the window"
And there it was. It was coming down, so purely, and beautifully. Our apartment was warm and cozy, and there was no place in the world I would rather be. Tea was boiling, food preparing; the room was full of love, full of joy.

we took a walk to the grocery store, as the snow kept falling down. Holding hands, singing of joy, happiness, and God, I felt as that was the happiest moment of my life!
careless of the world as we were walking back home, I reminded myself, happiness is not expensive, cheap, or out of reach. It is within me. It is "Now".

God is Love, Keep him close,
Good night.

You always call me back
In to your arms, your spirit, your being

I cant live without you and you cant live without me…
That’s why I am walking carrying your name

Oh how big you are and how small I am…
Still, you call me. still you love me. still you crave me…

I feel your presence, as I feel our lost times together
I was so close, and now I am so far…

I am craving your glory, your beauty, your kindness
Call me and KEEP me in your arms, and protect me
From anything that is a different color

Hold my hands, and his hands in yours, and when/if the day comes
Put our hands together…only in your name…
Amen.

the cold, the dark, the silent night.

What a lonely night.

Its silence but only on the outside. You wonder if anyone is listening.
When silence is this high, darkness is thick and sounds of evil are loud.

I sometimes want to go. leave. disappear. but I stay.
Now, I often wonder, how much one can take? Or perhaps the more we take, the more we learn to carry.

Its a dark night. but I don't care.

What is the meaning of becoming one, I often ask myself.
How much more can one give? Who sets the expectations? and what exactly happens when they are not met. I also often ask myself.

Sometimes words are not enough. Sometimes there can be no words.
but choking is never the answer. NEVER!

I am. I am. I am. the greatest, the highest, the strongest. And I will always be.

Peace.

Dolphins are NOT worth it!

Sooo, this post was sitting in my draft folder for nearly a year now, and I had to finish it! Its definitely a story worth telling...


February 2011

I am sitting here at John Wayne airport . its about 9:30 A.M. in the morning and its time to go home. I am tired and sleepy, but so rested from the 4 days birthday vacation! Laguna beach is truly beautiful. The weather so breezy, and crisp you just want to pause the moment and breath! and by the way, people are so much nicer than the East coast...We went a lot of cool places, had lots of good food and just had a blast!

but there is one thing about my vacation which I will never forget!

 The Dolphins!

It was my idea, let me emphasis, MY idea, to go on a whale and dolphin safari. I found this place called "Captain Dave Whale and Dolphin safari". The whole thing sounded so cool! We would board on a small boat and would travel about 6 or 7 miles into the pacific ocean to be greeted by dozen of whales and dolphins at the time, dancing in the water and shaking their tails for us....or at least thats what their website stated!

everything was perfect. We got in the boat, waiting impatiently for the captain to start the ride. Oh, and to make things more interesting, we had decided to fill up our tummies with Cheetos, Potato Chips and a turkey sandwiches before the ride, oh so oddly delicious!

Finally, we were moving, and out of excitement, Baubak and I decided to play Titanic! So, we made our way to the tip of the boat and stood there as the cold water touched our feet, and the breeze hit our faces. ahhh!! Just the picture perfect vacation. right?

UNTIL, a voice in my head commanded me "you better stop the titanic show right now, or you will regret it for the rest of the day!" I didn't listen of course. I don't know how many minutes had passed, before I was convinced that I just do not feel right. With the hopes of  it being something temporary, I made my way back inside, and sat down. I was still excited and was keeping an eye out for the dolphins. I looked around. There were people laying down, sleeping on their back or tummies. I remember thinking to myself, what in the world is wrong with these people? Have they really paid this much money to come and take a nap HERE? little that I knew that I was about to join them shortly....

As the boat continued to vanish in the ocean, I started to feel the complete regret of signing up for this adventure with every cell of my being. "What a stupid idea..Who goes to see the dolphins in the middle of February?!!!!" I thought to myself, as my stomach kept tossing and turning! nope, no way back now! We are in the middle of nowhere! screw the dolphins I thought..Please get me outta here!

and it hit me. I have to make myself throw up! (sorry for being so frank, but that is exactly what was going on in my mind)

Poor Baubak! He was feeling all right, but the adventure was definitely over for him! He was trying to make me feel better, but it surely was not working. I asked him where the bathroom was, and rushed to it! And of course, the bathroom was more like a hole in the wall which I could barely fit in. I am not going to excite you with what exactly happened in there! (the whole 30 minutes), but we have an expression in Farsi that says, I saw the death in front of my eyes, and I am pretty sure I could relate to it at that moment.

As I was trying to regain my strength  to get out of the bathroom, still feeling like crap, I heard a knock on the door. Baubak was concerned since I took so long, and he had decided to come and pay me a visit. What a  bad idea!

As soon as I opened the door to announce my well being, Buabak's face turned yellow. It wasn't the most romantic atmosphere to be in per se. I looked crazy, and the bathroom...well...was a disaster, and that was more than enough for his stomach to turn. So, in a matter of seconds, I found myself standing at the bathroom door, trying to keep my balance, and Baubak took over my position. Let me not bore you with how many times we went back and forth, taking turns vomiting, and grossing each other out, but believe it or not, that has become one of the unforgettable memories of that trip for me! After 15 minutes or so, we finally stopped, completely out of breath, stared at each other and started laughing! What a disaster I thought! but It was rather a cute, unforgettable and gross moment!

I was still feeling like crap, and so did he at this point. We made our way back to our seats and tried to stay put till this God forsaken trip was over! After 5 minutes or so, the captain announced his regret that he could not find us any dolphins  to see. I cant tell you if I was happy or sad. I guess happy that I had not missed a darn thing, and sad that I wasted a good 2 pair of shoes that could have been purchased with the money I had spent on those tickets.
I closed my eyes and fell asleep, until Baubak slowly woke me up to tell me that the trip was over! Thank you Jesus with all my heart I prayed. We spent the rest of the day doing way more fun things on land which I truly grown a massive appreciation for at that point! and I kept thinking to myself, Dolphins were not worth it!!

امشب می خواهم به یاد سهراب بنویسم...

به یاد مردی که سادگی را با ..."زندگی شستن یک بشقاب است" به من اموخت.

کسی چه میدانست وقتی گفت..."در ابعاد این عصر خاموش, من از طعم تصنیف درمتن ادراک یک کوچه تنهاترم..." در دلش چه می گذرد.و چرا دایم دم از تنهایی سردی و سکوت میزد؟ شاید او هم گوشی می خواست برای شنیدن...مثل من...

بگذریم.

امشب شب سهراب است.

این روزها زیاد به او فکر می کنم.. حتما اگر سهراب بود حرفی داشتیم برای زدن و شعری برای سرودن...

به یاد او:

....

صدا کن مرا
صدای تو خوب است
صدای تو سبزینه‌ی آن گیاه عجیبی است
که در انتهای صمیمیت حزن می‌روید

در ابعاد این عصر خاموش
من از طعم تصنیف درمتن ادراک یک کوچه تنهاترم
بیا تا برایت بگویم چه اندازه تنهایی من بزرگ است
و تنهایی من شبیخون حجم ترا پیش‌بینی نمی‌کرد
و خاصیت عشق این است
کسی نیست
بیا زندگی را بدزدیم آن وقت
میان دو دیدار قسمت کنیم
بیا با هم از حالت سنگ چیزی بفهمیم
بیا زودتر چیزها را ببینیم

ببین عقربک‌های فواره در صفحه‌ی ساعت حوض
زمان را به گردی بدل می‌کنند
بیا آب شو مثل یک واژه در سطر خاموشی‌ام
بیا ذوب کن در کف دست من جرم نورانی عشق را
مرا گرم کن

و یک بار هم در بیابان کاشان هوا ابر شد
و باران تندی گرفت
و سردم شد آن وقت در پشت یک سنگ
اجاق شقایق مرا گرم کرد
در این کوچه‌هایی که تاریک هستند
من از حاصل ضرب تردید و کبریت می‌ترسم
من از سطح سیمانی قرن می‌ترسم

بیا تا نترسم من از شهرهایی که خاک سیاشان چراگاه جرثقیل است
مرا باز کن مثل یک در به روی هبوط گلابی در این عصر معراج پولاد
مرا خواب کن زیر یک شاخه دور از شب اصطکاک فلزات
اگر کاشف معدن صبح آمد صدا کن مرا
و من در طلوع گل یاسی از پشت انگشت‌های تو بیدار خواهم شد
و آن وقت حکایت کن از بمب‌هایی که من خواب بودم و افتاد
حکایت کن از گونه‌هایی که من خواب بودم و تر شد
بگو چند مرغابی از روی دریا پریدند
در آن گیر و داری که چرخ زره پوش از روی رویای کودک گذر داشت
قناری نخ زرد آواز خود را به پای چه احساس آسایشی بست
بگو در بنادر چه اجناس معصومی از راه وارد شد
چه علمی به موسیقی مثبت بوی باروت پی برد
چه ادراکی از طعم مجهول نان در مذاق رسالت تراوید

و آن وقت من مثل ایمانی از تابش استوا گرم
ترا در سر آغاز یک باغ خواهم نشانید.

....

روحش شاد...

The White Board

I remember 7th grade like it was yesterday…Sitting in front row in class and listening so carefully to our religion teacher Ms. Akbari. Ms. Akbari was one of a kind. She was a dark skinned women who never smiled. We all knew that she took her classes very seriously and that no one could joke around since the subject was God and prophets most of the time.We were not aloud to disagree or express our opinion or she would say “how dare you question God and his holy book…this is the way it is and you have to learn and follow it in order to go to heaven….” oh how brainwashed we used to be, and how convincing she used to sound

But one day she came to class and taught us this…”My dear students, always remember, you were born with a white board attached your heart and there is not a single dot on it until you start planting your seeds. If you plant good seeds, your white board will always remain white and clean, but if you plant bad seeds, evil will come and your white board will get darker and darker…” I remember that day I was in fear..I wanted to ask, is this really true? (but I knew better) and if so, what about forgiveness, love and patience

….

years later I learned this…its not about how dark your white board become. After all isn’t it meant to be written on? Whats important is how fast you erase the darkness so it wouldn’t sink to your heart…
keeping a white board untouched is boring. keeping a white board untouched is lifeless…I have a message for Ms. Akbari tonight: ” write on your white board, loud and clear. keep the good stuff and erase the evil….

And don’t worry, you can still go to heaven…

according to ' many' Iran is no place to miss

according to 'many'...Iran is no place to miss.

... A place filled with dirt, pollution and reckless drivers;
People are rude and smell horrible.
Men never shave and women...well...according to 'many' don't exist.
Education is forbidden.
It is the country of corrupt economy and nuclear program so dangerous it can blow up many countries at once!

but i still miss it...

I miss it when I think of Tehran.
I still miss it when I think of our small apartment on the fourth floor;
my room which was shared with my little sister;

each neighbor had their own story.

I still miss it when I think about the the nosy neighbor who would lean forward of the hallway window for hours to make sure she is not missing out on any of the neighborhood action...

or the 'namaki' who would appear in the middle of the summer afternoon to sell and buy any plastic topoware.

Or my sister who would run down the stairs with a glass of water to greet my grandma half way on the second floor every time she would come to visit.

I remember my sister and I would wait hours for our dad to come home only to beg him to take us to the tiny little park up the hill!

Or when we could not wait to get home from school to take off our scarfs which in most cases had already made a bush out of our hair underneath and had to be unpeeled from our scalp.

According to 'many' Iran is no place to miss...but they might not know that...every Thursday night was family night.

every Thursday night, my Aunt and cousins would come over .

the smell of sunflower seeds, peeled clementine, and Persian peeled cucumber with salt would fill the whole house.

Adults would eat and drink Persian tea and my cousins and I would talk about anything and everything. I still can hear the conversations and laughter.

Every Thursday night, I would think.." nothing can make me happier"...That is gone and I miss it.

I miss Hajar high school. A place where only girls were allowed; Where our nails, eyebrows and upper lips were checked every Saturday morning; God forbid if we had nail polish on or had touched the manly hair of our faces...

Where I did not do much homework, but learned a bunch from our conservative, covered in black chadour teachers.

The night I left Iran, was a joyful night! I thought " I am finally leaving this bleak place and I am never coming back." But that feeling soon left me as soon as the plane landed...

The truth is that one day I am indeed going back.

Going back to undust the memories and relive the forgotten moments.

Taking it for granted

Once I read somewhere that humans are the most flexible animals; well, not physically per se, but mentally and emotionally. I didn't really care much about this statement back then; just thought about it as a simple saying and it wasn't till recently that I truly felt its meaning.

The simple truth is that us, humans, get use to things so unconsciously; Situations, conditions, locations, behaviors, wealth, health,etc. sometimes it might be the lack of awareness and the capacity for sensory perception as merriam-webster would have it. What ever it might be our souls become so moldable, just like water; It fits and changes as its poured into any shape and form jar... and that is a beautiful thing until we get stuck in one stage for too long...

then we tend to get used our surroundings. We think too highly of ourselves. We begin to like it. We begin to think that we deserve it and we should have been here from day one in the first place and that's when it happens. We take it for granted....we take it for granted until it is taken away from us. When the nice things are gone, when rich is poor, when wealthy is sick, when pride is replaced by humbleness. Then we begin to blame everything and anything in our power including ourselves."...well, maybe if I had acted differently, if I had tried a little harder, if I was a little nicer,..." but the truth is, none of these things matter. life is going to happen before our eyes and most of the time, we can't do much about it.

I feel like my life has taken that route in the past year. As I think about it tonight, I have taken many things, situations, people, etc, for granted as if they are going to be there forever...and now that I feel some of them have been taken away from me, I feel the emptiness...

i know, or better said, I've learned today that any situation is a good situation. Any condition is a good condition. The variable is us. We can be happy, rich, healthy, miserable or poor in any setting; Just depends on how we look at it...so, don't get stuck in one spot for too long and when you've moved on, don't forget about the past, for the past is always a part of your future.

thanks for listening!

Goodnight....

Side note to God

Lord...

Thank you for all the answered and unanswered prayers...
Thank you for the rough times...without it we could not feel the sweetness of freedom...

Thank you for the dark nights...
Thank you for the bitter moments...
Thank you for all the rejected answers...
Without it hope would have lost its meaning and...faith..would have lost its color...

There are no words to describe your glory...your blessing hands..and your forgiving spirit

Thank you for inviting us and allowing us to praise you!
Be with us...guide us and deliver us from evil...

In your name..Amen!

never looked at life this way before

Hello to whoever is reading,

It is around 9:30 P.M. on a quiet Friday night. As I was catching up with some readings just right now, I just thought about what I heard on the radio last night and figured that I had to write about it and share it with the rest of the world. It opened my eyes to no limit and I hope it will be a buzzer to someone out there.

I'd like to think of myself as a positive person. I always try to look at the half-full of the glass. I try not to freak out when times are hard and trust the superpower, and I thought that was good enough until last night.

Last night, delilah radio show host of 97.1 (After hours with Delilah) was on as I was driving home from school. I was tired and impatient to get home and unwind mentally from the whole world until Delilah said:

"Live your life. I can not understand when I meet people at the grocery store and they tell me that they are buying food to go sit in front of the TV and do nothing. Live your real life; not the life that is behind the magic box! I can not believe when people waste hours and hours of their days.

"In those hours, laughter can be burst, yarns can be knitted, crochets can be made, hungry kids can be fed, God can be praised, books can be read, and love can be spread. Live your life...

I can not believe when I think bout how short life can be..and yet people take it for granted and think they have all the time in the world. Live you life to the to the fullest! "

My mind was blocked as she had just said the most unbelievable thing! Why this sounded so new to me? I almost stopped the car to think. I thought this has got to be the most powerful thing I heard in a long time!

And I remembered, I know so many people around me including myself that take this direction unconsciously. I remembered how tasks are forwarded to tomorrow, love is often put on hold, and concede becomes peoples best friend. We forget about the super power. We often have to remind ourselves that our 9-5 job is not our everything! and there are other things in life that can mean so much more!

I don't know about you, but those words are embedded on my soul and will be with me forever; so I thinknthe next time you wanted to put your life on hold again, just remember, life will go on, clock won't stop ticking, and love can slip out of your hands before your eyes!

That is it for tonight, thank you for listening!

I am going to write a book...THE book!

Hello everyone! I can't believe I am actually and FINALLY blogging about this. This subject has been on my mind for over a year now and since I am the type of person I am (all over the place..well..most of the time), I have been putting it of for no good reason! but,I think the time is here at last. I am going to write a book. yes! I am going to write about a journey. The journey of my childhood; I am going to write about how I or better said my family ended up where we are today. I am writing this book for all people, but specifically for people who do not have a clear idea about migration; For people who do don't grasp the difficulties of this bumpy road...This book is the truth about a family who wants to live a better life and is going to pay the price on the "land of opportunities" price tag with no "sales" being offered!

This book is simple. I am going or at least try to demonstrate how it feels to live in a society that often is taken for granted by its own people and the only ones that do realize this, are the very foreigners!


I cant tell you much about it now..but I promise you this... I am going to start and finish it..I am giving myself a deadline of 365 days! I am nervous, excited, maybe a little scared and maybe not as confident as I want to be right now, but this book is going to challenge me..and I am ready to take it!

I can not reveal the name of the book just yet since I am still deciding and choosing...

I will blog more as I write and will keep you posted..whoever you are..hope you are listening!

is Sara really serious?

ok..so let me just start by saying that I am not a democrat nor a republican nor an independent! nor a follower of any organization or an extremist that can be easily manipulated by the media and the news! I am just an individual who hears, receives, thinks and then decides whether or not the given information makes any sense. I am studying Mass communication and I know the "deal". I know what media does or atleast try to do with people's mind, creating and manipulating it as if the audience came up with that perspective themselves. So, having said that, I am not following and going by what media had to say about Ms. Sara Palin! But C'oooome oooooooon!...

From the beginning of McCain and VP "to be" Sara Palin, I watched her! closely...I did not agree with people that just hated her right of the bat...I did not agree with people that made fun of her after her "foolish" interview with katie couric (and many other interviews after that)where she had absolutely no idea what she was talking about...She sure did one thing though...made Tina made filthy rich!

Today, she wrote a book! yes, a book! about why did McCain's campaigned failed miserably. Oh..and now she wants to talk about her past life and marriage and pre marriage life and miscarriages..I mean..I am sorry..but Sara, dont you think its a bit too late? What is the point of your book? tell me..please! You have been humiliated and made fun of miserably world wide..and as sad as this might sound, people do believe the media! you know what you are..simply a tool! People are writing about you, copying you, and simply making money of of you! just thought I should share that with you and the rest of the world...Oh..and for future reference, please don't call your child retarded! you betcha the world is listening...